Mujeres Líderes
Alice Miller (Poland 1923 - France 2010). Psychologist, Sociologist and Philosopher known for her work in mistreating children.
She was born in Poland into a Jewish family and suffered persecution by the Nazis during the German occupation. After escaping from the Piotrków ghetto and with a new identity, she studied in Switzerland. Her work gives us the opportunity to understand the causes and origin of violence in society, focusing on the mistreatment of boys and girls. Through its analysis we understand not only the serious consequences of abuse during childhood on individuals, but also its effects at the collective level and how it is reproduced at different levels of society, thus generating a chain of violence.
Alice Miller is a reference for those of us who work at Shalom Bait, we adhere to her analysis and her reflection on violence and her vision of how to review certain practices and repair the society in which we live to end violence.
For your own good *
"Every young child needs, as a companion, a human being (it does not matter whether he is a mother or father) who is empathetic and not 'dominant'.
"In the treatment of children there is a universal valid psychological norm that should be brought to light: the exercise of power by the adult over the child, a practice that, like no other, can remain hidden and unpunished."
“The beatings are only a form of mistreatment and are always humiliating, because the child is prohibited from defending himself and in return must show gratitude and respect towards his parents. But alongside corporal punishment there is a whole scale of refined measures that are applied 'for the good of the child', measures that the child cannot understand, and precisely for this reason they tend to have devastating effects on their later life ”. “The normal reaction to an attack should be anger and pain. However, in a harmful environment, the child is forbidden to get angry and, in his solitude, the pain will be unbearable. The child must then hide his feelings, repress the memory of the trauma and idealize his aggressor ”.
"As long as the child is not allowed to realize what happened to him, a part of his emotional life will remain frozen and his sensitivity to the humiliations of childhood will be dulled."
“People who from the beginning were allowed to react appropriately - that is, with anger - to pain, offense and rejection inflicted on them from the beginning, will retain this ability to react appropriately into adulthood. As adults, they will feel the harm done to them and will be able to express it verbally ”.
“The comparison between abuses committed against a child and those committed against an adult presents, in addition to the views of the degree of maturity of the SELF, loyalty and isolation.
The prisoner in a concentration camp will not be able to resist mistreatment or defend himself against the humiliations inflicted on him, but he will be internally free to hate his torturers.This possibility of living his feelings, and even sharing them with others, will allow him provides the opportunity not to have to give up your SELF. A child does not have exactly that opportunity. He will not be able to hate his father if later he has to be afraid of losing his affection, and he will not want to hate him because he loves him. Unlike, then, the prisoner of the extermination camp, a child does not face a hated torturer, but a loved one ”.
* Excerpts from the book For your own good, Alice Miller (1980).
Mujeres Líderes
Alice Miller (Poland 1923 - France 2010). Psychologist, Sociologist and Philosopher known for her work in mistreating children.
She was born in Poland into a Jewish family and suffered persecution by the Nazis during the German occupation. After escaping from the Piotrków ghetto and with a new identity, she studied in Switzerland. Her work gives us the opportunity to understand the causes and origin of violence in society, focusing on the mistreatment of boys and girls. Through its analysis we understand not only the serious consequences of abuse during childhood on individuals, but also its effects at the collective level and how it is reproduced at different levels of society, thus generating a chain of violence.
Alice Miller is a reference for those of us who work at Shalom Bait, we adhere to her analysis and her reflection on violence and her vision of how to review certain practices and repair the society in which we live to end violence.
For your own good *
"Every young child needs, as a companion, a human being (it does not matter whether he is a mother or father) who is empathetic and not 'dominant'.
"In the treatment of children there is a universal valid psychological norm that should be brought to light: the exercise of power by the adult over the child, a practice that, like no other, can remain hidden and unpunished."
“The beatings are only a form of mistreatment and are always humiliating, because the child is prohibited from defending himself and in return must show gratitude and respect towards his parents. But alongside corporal punishment there is a whole scale of refined measures that are applied 'for the good of the child', measures that the child cannot understand, and precisely for this reason they tend to have devastating effects on their later life ”. “The normal reaction to an attack should be anger and pain. However, in a harmful environment, the child is forbidden to get angry and, in his solitude, the pain will be unbearable. The child must then hide his feelings, repress the memory of the trauma and idealize his aggressor ”.
"As long as the child is not allowed to realize what happened to him, a part of his emotional life will remain frozen and his sensitivity to the humiliations of childhood will be dulled."
“People who from the beginning were allowed to react appropriately - that is, with anger - to pain, offense and rejection inflicted on them from the beginning, will retain this ability to react appropriately into adulthood. As adults, they will feel the harm done to them and will be able to express it verbally ”.
“The comparison between abuses committed against a child and those committed against an adult presents, in addition to the views of the degree of maturity of the SELF, loyalty and isolation.
The prisoner in a concentration camp will not be able to resist mistreatment or defend himself against the humiliations inflicted on him, but he will be internally free to hate his torturers.This possibility of living his feelings, and even sharing them with others, will allow him provides the opportunity not to have to give up your SELF. A child does not have exactly that opportunity. He will not be able to hate his father if later he has to be afraid of losing his affection, and he will not want to hate him because he loves him. Unlike, then, the prisoner of the extermination camp, a child does not face a hated torturer, but a loved one ”.
* Excerpts from the book For your own good, Alice Miller (1980).
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PHONE NUMBER
(011) 4701 5890
+54 9 11 4940-7973
Monday from 13.00 to 19.00
from Tuesday to Thursday from 9.00 to 19.00 hs.
EMAIL
info@shalombait.org.ar
ADRESS
Bonpland 723, CABA, Argentina.
FACEBOOK
144 - THE WHOLE COUNTRY
Advice, guidance, information and support for women victims of violence.
137 - CITY OF BUENOS AIRES
Attention and orientation to victims of violence. It carries out home interventions with a mobile team in emergency situations and accompaniment in making complaints.
102 - CABA
Information and referrals in situations of mistreatment and sexual abuse of Girls, Boys and Adolescents.
OVD
Receive complaints of domestic violence 24 hours a day.
Address: Lavalle 1250.