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Psychologist, Sociologist and Philosopher known for her work in mistreating children.<\/p><p>She was born in Poland into a Jewish family and suffered persecution by the Nazis during the German occupation. After escaping from the Piotrk\u00f3w ghetto and with a new identity, she studied in Switzerland. Her work gives us the opportunity to understand the causes and origin of violence in society, focusing on the mistreatment of boys and girls. 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But alongside corporal punishment there is a whole scale of refined measures that are applied 'for the good of the child', measures that the child cannot understand, and precisely for this reason they tend to have devastating effects on their later life \u201d. \u201cThe normal reaction to an attack should be anger and pain. However, in a harmful environment, the child is forbidden to get angry and, in his solitude, the pain will be unbearable. The child must then hide his feelings, repress the memory of the trauma and idealize his aggressor \u201d.<\/em><\/p><p><em>\\\"As long as the child is not allowed to realize what happened to him, a part of his emotional life will remain frozen and his sensitivity to the humiliations of childhood will be dulled.\\\"<\/em><\/p><p><em>\u201cPeople who from the beginning were allowed to react appropriately - that is, with anger - to pain, offense and rejection inflicted on them from the beginning, will retain this ability to react appropriately into adulthood. As adults, they will feel the harm done to them and will be able to express it verbally \u201d.<\/em><\/p><p><em>\u201cThe comparison between abuses committed against a child and those committed against an adult presents, in addition to the views of the degree of maturity of the SELF, loyalty and isolation.<\/em><\/p><p><em>The prisoner in a concentration camp will not be able to resist mistreatment or defend himself against the humiliations inflicted on him, but he will be internally free to hate his torturers.This possibility of living his feelings, and even sharing them with others, will allow him provides the opportunity not to have to give up your SELF. A child does not have exactly that opportunity. He will not be able to hate his father if later he has to be afraid of losing his affection, and he will not want to hate him because he loves him. 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Psychologist, Sociologist and Philosopher known for her work in mistreating children.<\/p><p>She was born in Poland into a Jewish family and suffered persecution by the Nazis during the German occupation. After escaping from the Piotrk\u00f3w ghetto and with a new identity, she studied in Switzerland. Her work gives us the opportunity to understand the causes and origin of violence in society, focusing on the mistreatment of boys and girls. 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But alongside corporal punishment there is a whole scale of refined measures that are applied 'for the good of the child', measures that the child cannot understand, and precisely for this reason they tend to have devastating effects on their later life \u201d. \u201cThe normal reaction to an attack should be anger and pain. However, in a harmful environment, the child is forbidden to get angry and, in his solitude, the pain will be unbearable. The child must then hide his feelings, repress the memory of the trauma and idealize his aggressor \u201d.<\/em><\/p><p><em>\\\"As long as the child is not allowed to realize what happened to him, a part of his emotional life will remain frozen and his sensitivity to the humiliations of childhood will be dulled.\\\"<\/em><\/p><p><em>\u201cPeople who from the beginning were allowed to react appropriately - that is, with anger - to pain, offense and rejection inflicted on them from the beginning, will retain this ability to react appropriately into adulthood. As adults, they will feel the harm done to them and will be able to express it verbally \u201d.<\/em><\/p><p><em>\u201cThe comparison between abuses committed against a child and those committed against an adult presents, in addition to the views of the degree of maturity of the SELF, loyalty and isolation.<\/em><\/p><p><em>The prisoner in a concentration camp will not be able to resist mistreatment or defend himself against the humiliations inflicted on him, but he will be internally free to hate his torturers.This possibility of living his feelings, and even sharing them with others, will allow him provides the opportunity not to have to give up your SELF. A child does not have exactly that opportunity. He will not be able to hate his father if later he has to be afraid of losing his affection, and he will not want to hate him because he loves him. 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